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My first (of many) Bhangra preformance!

  • Jun. 12th, 2009 at 2:43 PM
Zepia
Thanks to Megha, my Bhangra Instructor and Buddy for uploading the vid!

It seems that the link is broken to embed, so click here!



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I must have a twisted sense of creepy!

What Living Alone is Teaching Me.

  • May. 22nd, 2009 at 3:54 PM
Zepia
  • To be content with myself.
  • That I cannot hide with myself.  Which sometimes can lead to moments of reflection that can be painful.
  • There is great freedom in many ways.
  • To reach out to people.
  • To take a hard look at things.
  • To take risks.
  • To be cleaner and more organized because this is, after all, my own space.
Considering I am a person who might or might not get married, I need this time to be alone, to learn to live with myself, to be my own confidant.  I wonder if this will teach me boundaries or not.  I will see.  It has been an interesting experience so far.  I admit I am still scared about the hardest parts.

And Now, Time For A Lyric...

  • Mar. 12th, 2009 at 5:36 PM
Contemplative 5
Lullaby, By James
Since your mother cast her spell
Every kiss has left a bruise
You`ve been raiding too much meaning from existence
Now your head is used and sore
And the forecast is for more
Memories falling, like falling rain
Falling rain

Every view they hold on you`s
A piano, out of tune
You`re an angel
You`re a demon
You`re just human
Now your world has turned to trash
Broken windows on the past
Take that child and teach him senseless
Damage the dream, damage the dream
I feel nothing, I feel nothing at all
I feel nothing at all

In this gloomy, haunted place
All the feelings are of shame
All the windows have been broken by the children
So the wind screams up the stairs
Slams the doors and rattles chairs
I wish we weren`t conceived in violence
Damage the dream, damage the dream
The magic is broken
The house is in ruins
Your memory`s one-sided
The side that you`re choosing feels nothing
Feels nothing at all
We feel nothing at all

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In Happier Entries

  • Sep. 28th, 2008 at 11:14 AM
Zepia
Thanks to everyone who replied my hormonal-driven worries about economy in the US! (I made it friends only!)

You should see Loins of Punjab.  Let me give you an informal video.  This song is in my head all the frigging time!


Too funny folks.  And that guy without the turbant is a hottie!



Contemplative 4


I was waiting for the subway in one station when I saw something that caught my eye.

If you ride the subway (and chances are good you do if you live in New York City and especially if you commute to Manhattan often), you know that vandalism in the subway stations is really common, and it is especially true when it comes to the sticky announcements. Faces with painted mustaches, with bubblegum on it or with written things are among the things you see in the subways.

So, this is what caught my eye: I have no cable TV but I know Showtime has all these popular shows, which are all lumped together in the same announcement. So you see the pictures of the protagonists of Californication, Weeds, The Tudors, State of the Union, Diary of a Call Girl and Dexter. In each of these, the vandalist wrote the moral flaws of these characters with the words "Hero?" under them. I don't remember what did he put in State of the Union, but I can tell you about the other five:
Californication: "Sex addict. Hero?"
Weeds: "Drug Dealer. Hero?
The Tudors: "Poligamist. Hero?"
Diary of a Call Girl: "Prostitute. Hero?"
Dexter: "Murderer. Hero?"

Well, Showtime seems to have a knack for anti-heros these days. Or maybe they are reflecting 21st century obsession with anti-heros? Are we recognizing we are humans or are we, as a generation tired of heroes who save the days in traditional ways, but we just don't want someone we identify with?

Those Dentyne Commercials at the Subway

  • Sep. 10th, 2008 at 12:01 AM
Eve
One of the things that attracts my attention about many of the subways in New York City is that publicity about a product or show takes a whole car of a train for promotion of a product.

Last friday, however, publicity worked on me.  I saw those Dentine  ads all over the cart I was riding on my way to meet a friend.  Basically, this group of ads was playing with the ideology of how the internet seems to be, well dehumanizing us and what should be there instead.  For example "The Ultimate Instant Message" is a picture of a kiss.  "Friends Requested" has two people hugging each other.  And "Chat Room Full" has a group of people lying on each other.  And in the bottom of the ads, they say such things as "close the browser, get close" and stuff like that.

Of course, this is not the first time that such a philosophy is used to sell a product.  I wonder what many media critics have to say about this.  For me the whole thing was intriguing.  What has a gum that cleans teeth has to do with re-humanizing us humans anyway?  Will Dentine return that?  What about bloggers like myself?  Should we become lecturers.

I am not one who plays in the anti-Internet campaign, mind you.  I love it!  I love the possibilities it gives me to communicate with others!  It brought me the possibility to meet likeminded people offline here in New York.

Anyway...  I think those Dentine ads are, indeed, intriguing.

Back on track

  • Jul. 19th, 2008 at 11:12 AM
Zepia
I know I have let you down for two weeks. But lack of internet at home makes a blogger difficult to blog. I have been compiling everything I have to write here in my notebook, and I think I am going to break it down. Stay tuned! Sometime tonight or tomorrow I shall post.

I am Alive

  • Jul. 10th, 2008 at 1:16 PM
Zepia

and  there are a lot of things to say... But unfortunately, I don't have internet at home! :(

Hopefully, I will get the router, and break these past two weeks down.  Stay tuned.

Zepia
Between yesterday and today, I have been feeling very edgy. It might be due to the stress of change. I was not coming here with the smile on my face I expected to arrive with. For a neurotic person like myself, being over the edge is not a good thing.

I hope I find an apartment within a week. I was going to have my first two interviews but I canceled both. I was (and still am) extremely tired. Tomorrow, however, I have two or three interviews for apartments. Let us see how those go.

I have plenty of things to do and I need to organize my time. I need to keep studying for the licensure, send things to the ASWB of New York, and hopefully I won't need to cancel social commitments. I also need to buy a pair of jeans and a good partying shirt.

During my trip in the plane, I was feeling bloated and with stomach pain. And feeling bloated means partially feeling fat.

Ahh and now the reasons about coming to New York (aside for the fact that I have a job and friends here).

My sister was a fan of Sex and The City, and there was some quote in a chapter saying that girls came to New York looking for love, or something like that. But I feel I come to New York in search of my destiny or, to quote Paulo Coelho in The Alchemist, to search and live my personal history. Quoting others aside, I need this time and what is happening to me. My heart is soft and I need to make it hard. I need to defy some of the expectations and conventions society has imposed on me, perhaps in a bigger way than I have been doing so until now.

As I landed, clouds covered New York City. I was feeling as if this was a present I was unwrapping, or as if I was feeling in front of the curtain for this chapter in my life.
Contemplating
Let me start with this quote by an author that echoed how I felt (her article is linked somewhere along my entry:

Fandom, by and large, tends to be a white space. And people of colour (PoC) are, by and large, good at negotiating white space. We have to be. We speak the lingo and know the canon, and we do such a good job blending in online that we often ... disappear.
I'm writing this to everybody like me; everybody who already knows what it is to never be the Default. I'm here. And so are you. Let's make them see us. (Marissa Sammy, 2008)

Traveling In Solitude and Increased Awareness

  • Jun. 20th, 2008 at 11:39 PM
In Nature 2
Given the experiences I have had in the past three days, I can tell my awareness has grown a lot.  This is something I consider really important, because I am also learning to befriend my solitude.  Sure, I was aware about how enriching can be to spend times with one's self, being one person who loves to explore cities on her own, but this time, my level of awareness is heightened, which makes me savor the present moment more intensely.

Let's take last wednesdayday as an example. 

My mother lives in front of the Addison street.  the bus that passes through that street takes me to the shore of Lake Michigan.  Because the weather was beautiful and I was doing nothing productive at home (even though I tried to study, I just could not), I decided that going to the lake would do me some good.  So I sat in front of the lake, without my otherwise faithful companion (the camera), but instead, my guided journal.  I wrote a lot, but I stopped to appreciate the blue and clear sky, the lake with all its ships, couples passing entwined or talking; a gal reading her book, kids playing, seagulls interested in flying...  I noticed everything so much.  It made me feel good and cleared my head.  If this is what mystics describe as being one with the environment, I really felt it.  Now, don't get me wrong; I am not going to claim that I am a mystic or get into religious-spiritual jargon.  This is merely how I felt at that very moment, no need for meditation or anything extraordinary.  I was writing and paused my writing to appreciate the environment... And stopping the writing did not bother me.

Today was another of such days (with the difference that I was able to study and concentrate!).  I noticed that in the cabin of the Blue Line of trains in Chicago where I was writing, three different groups of people were speaking in Spanish.  That made me aware of one of the perks of being in a big city in the United States: the differences of languages, including one's mother tongue.

I went then to the Millenium Park with my camera, and the usual photographer in me started taking the customary pictures.  The first time I was in this park was in December.  It was really cold, there was an ice skating track and lots of snow at the concert hall (sorry, I forgot its name!). 

Today it was different.  Instead of the skating track, there were lots of parasols covering the tables, in two or three different colors.  There were more vendors, and I could enter and appreciate the green in the concert hall, where before I could see white.

I also saw lots of families of different origins moving along people of different origins. 

And sat and started to write, but it started raining on me, so I ran to the bus, going to meet my mother.  We were going to eat Thai together.

All I Need

  • Jun. 19th, 2008 at 9:52 PM
Zepia


Reflecting my current life

The Wicker Man (The original version)

  • May. 30th, 2008 at 3:27 PM
Bookish

Yesterday, I watched a movie that is unsettling on an emotional level, but it is interesting on an intellectual one.  The name is The Wicker Man.

I would call it more a violent thriller than a horror movie.  The violence in this movie is sort of mild for today's standards of violence and gore.  On an intellectual level, I think this movie will be open to interpretation.  I read that the screenwriter of this movie (his last name is Schaffer, if I remember correctly) was an Atheist and he was trying to make a point of the absurdity of religious beliefs.  And this is very specially clear at the end to me.  I spoke about it to S.  "It might be a bit too arty for your taste, but the thriller lover and the Atheist in you might at least find it worth watching," I said when he asked me whether he would enjoy it.  Oddly enough, some Christians find it to be pro-Christian because of the ending, but I personally do not see how is this pro-Christian.  

From this non-Christian believer's standpoint, this still has an undertone that deals with religion, although I see it more from anti-fanaticism point of view.  I acknowledge my bias, of course.

On top of that, the acting was good.  I will join the herd of sheeps and say that Christopher Lee was the best thing in the movie!  I already saw him as two other charming and smart villains: as Dracula and as Saruman in Lord of the Rings.  To add more, I recommend the director's cut in which Lord Summersile (Lee's character) talks about why he prefers Animals to humans (the scene in general is terrific; and it is uploaded in Youtube if you are interested). In addition, there are enough musical scenes to make you think this is part musical (but in a different way than other horror/thriller musicals, like Sweeney Todd).  In fact, the songs relate to the existential tone and religious commentary that goes throughout the film.  I also would recommend to watch it if you are not prone to have stereotypes about Pagans (and especially modern ones).

 I won't watch it often just because it is too unsettling to handle, but this film will stand as a favourite.
As for the new version with Nicholas Cage...  I saw the trailer as well as some bits in Youtube.  Not only his acting was bad, but there were too many elements taken away, including much of the religious/existential commentary.  So I am not too crazy about watching it.
(And shame on Ellen Burstyn trying to play the female version of Christopher Lee's character!  She could have done it a lot better than she did!)

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Nick The Pimp

  • May. 7th, 2008 at 7:41 PM
Laughbus
Is it just me, or Nick Cave is walking like a pimp in this video whenever he isn't singing?  The whole thing cracks me up!

The song is great and so is the record though

Transitions...

  • May. 7th, 2008 at 7:04 PM
Contemplative 2
Graduation came and left in all its glory.  Now, I am looking for jobs.  It is a new life soon starting, a new chapter.  One in which I am uncertain about the world I am entering in, which is exciting as it is scary.

I also discovered myself in more ways than one.  I learned that maybe I would work with the solution focused theory in the future.  Why?  Because I discovered that we solve nothing by saying "we are doomed."  I know people who would throw the hand on the pretense that their contribution would be insignificant.  Perhaps so, but you have to keep trying.

I remember an article recently written in New York Times.  The guy said that, when it comes to Global Warming, we might be doing too little too late, but closed on a more positive note: we have to bother with the small insignificant contributions the way Vaclav Havel, former President of Czechoslovakia, did.  Keep doing things "as if" they would change the society, and maybe, as it happened with him, people noticed. 

It is important to me as a Social Worker not to get discourage every time it says "it is not enough, but keep fighting...  Keep looking for ways of how to make my work "enough " or "close to enough" to contribute.  That's one of many reasons I wanted it to be a Social Worker.

On the other hand...  I will have time to cultivate many aspects of myself and the enrichment of my life.  Homeworks did not give me such time.  I hope it continues this way and I don't have to return to school for PHD, but let us see what life has in store.  For now, a life living between New York and Chicago until I find a job is waiting for me.  Hopefully, this switching cities won't last too long.

YIKES!

  • Apr. 20th, 2008 at 8:51 PM
Feeling Blue
Now it seems like the gas prices are peek high now!  And the Iranian President says they will be even higher. (Or so media says...)

And I am graduating this month.  It makes the future a bit scary.

I mean, I did not move to the US for this.

And the solution is not moving to another country!  The rest of the world is not faring better!

And Ethanol does not seem to be the answer either!

I should have stuck to concentrating on the Clinton and Obama debate. 

And as a Social Worker, this is the kind of thing that makes me impotent.

I am entering in a world than is tougher than I expected...  I hope that 2008 comes to a better end.  And the aspiring presidents should concentrate on the task at hand, instead of being at each other's throats.  Poverty seems suddenly a tougher monster to fight!

Asimilate to "Civilization" or Else...

  • Apr. 4th, 2008 at 7:11 PM
Irma Vep Angry
I apologyze in advance.  Please, don't take it personal, I don't aim it at anyone in particular as much as I aim it to society in general.  But I need to vent.

 End of rant.  

Warning, it is cross-posted
Ignorance is not Bliss
For Example!

Is it that people really do not take a hard look at the potential consequences or choose to ignore them in the name of a quick fix that can keeps their wallets as they are, if not growing.
And we as general public preferring comforting lies is not helping either.

And then there is conflicting information about lead in lipstick, just when I am starting to like makeup; they say yes, they say no, the yes sayers refute the naysayers again...  AAAAARGH

Media, media... Your conflicting information drives me crazy (and your imposing trends while torturing all of us in the process).  That's the main reason decided against being a journalist in the end.

(Being sick is not helping!)

Homage to Sylvian... When Poets Dreamed of Angels/Cries and Whispers

  • Mar. 25th, 2008 at 11:54 PM
Zepia
She rises early from bed
Runs to the mirror
The bruises inflicted in moments of fury

He kneels beside her once more
Whispers a promise
"Next time I'll break every bone in your body"

And the well-wishers let the devil in
And if the river ran dry they'd deny it happening

As the card players deal their hands
From the bottom of the deck
Row upon row of feudal houses blown away
Medicine for the popular complaint

When the poets dreamed of Angels
What did they see?
History lined up in a flash at their backs

When the poets dreamed of Angels
What did they see?
The bishops and knights well placed to attack

Shattered dreams on a bed of lies
Now my love dies and cries
Cries and whispers


My heart grew wing under desert skies
Now my love dies and cries
Cries and whispers


And my heart sings of many things
In cries and whispers

When the poets dreamed of Angels
What did they see?
History lined up in a flash at their backs

When the poets dreamed of Angels
What did they see?
The bishops and knights well placed to attack

One Quote to Ponder About...

  • Mar. 17th, 2008 at 9:02 AM
Gabriel Mirror
It is not that I am 100% in agreement with this.  I am, in fact not a big fan of Nietzsche, but sometimes he can stretch my mind really far and make me think sometimes, even when/if I don't agree with what he says.

A friend of mine just recently put a quote as something to ponder about.  Funny thing he is a liberal-leaning moderate as I am.  Neither of us agreed with the quote 100% but we realized it had to do more with how human nature tends to get in the way with our liberal intentions.  And also, I believe that, as a Social Worker, I should keep this in mind; to keep my ideals and behaviour in check for any possible cognitive dissonance, and how to examine it and change the circumstances if I must.

The quote I put here is actually for you guys to ponder about, and if you want, feel free to let me know about your opinions.  I am very curious about your perception of this quote, as well as whether you agree with it or not, and why.  I am interested in different angles and opinions, especially considering that a majority of my friends are moderate or liberal.  Conservatives are welcome to comment as well.

Here is the quote by Nietzsche (I copied it from my friend's page and I don't know how to make it black and take the underline, so I apologyze):

The value of a thing sometimes does not lie in that which one attains by it, but in what one pays for it—what it costs us. I give an example. Liberal institutions cease to be liberal as soon as they are attained: later on, there are no worse and no more thorough injurers of freedom than liberal institutions. One knows, indeed, what their ways bring: they undermine the will to power; they level mountain and valley, and call that morality; they make men small, cowardly, and hedonistic [genüsslich]—every time it is the herd animal that triumphs with them. Liberalism: in other words, herd-animalization - Friedrich Nietzsche

A more intellectual post.

  • Mar. 13th, 2008 at 11:16 AM
Zepia

The Spitzer cheating with a call girl has caused a heated debate. Some attribute this to human nature coming from prehistory , others think it has to do with his having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (this, I watched on TV), and even bitches like Dr. Laura stepped in to blame women!!!  Yes. you read it correctly.  Let alone the sex and power mix from most people.  I am not linking that one, because you can find links from that one around every corner of the web.

Now, back to Schlessinger, I am not one to say that the men cheating have only at fault either.  My problem is that you cannot categorize each marriage and its infidelity problems on things like this.  It is not right.  The key, in my belief, is that both people would ideally examine what lead to this.  In some case is the men, in some case it is the women, in some cases, both share the blame.  And what when the women cheat?  Each marriage is different and should not be judged.  But realistically speaking, it is hard when you either are a public person (such as Spitzer) or when you live in a small community).  Even some seemilgly happy couples might be shaken by that.

There is also a theory that, just as men tend to be attracted by physical beauty, women tend to be attracted by power.  I am still following with interest how much might be true in this theories.  The sex and power combo is a very interesting topic.

What are your thoughts about the situation?  I am craving for new thoughts for real life people.

 

Crappy mum's computer

  • Mar. 10th, 2008 at 9:58 PM
Zepia

I was doing a whole entry and it was errased by my mum's computer.  I don't feel like writing again.

I had an awesome day today at the Chicago Institute of Art.  More on it and other stuff tomorrow.

BTW...  What do you people think about the tap water contaminated with meds?

Ohhh And another thing.  Hello Goodbye by the Beatles watered down in a commercial for Target is one very crappy thing to come in TV.

A Random Thought or Two.

  • Feb. 9th, 2008 at 11:29 PM
Zepia
I can now understand why sometimes giving help not asked for is inappropriate.

I see the suffering or pressing moment of some people in my life, and either they don't know I am seeing it or they cannot see I am understanding it.  And I wish I could help and reach out.  But there is the question of boundaries there, as well as the question of how can it be interpreted.  But there is a saying in Spanish that goes: "whoever decides to be a redeemer, ends up crucified."

I wish I could reach out for you and help you... if you only ask.  Not otherwise.

Just know that I understand your pain because I am feeling a similar pain about the same issues.  But you took a risk and went a step further, where it was (and still is) hard to make that step to me.

(Sorry for being so criptic, but I have my reasons.  And this is an exception I am doing when it comes to public entries, but it is my way to try to reach out.)
Contemplating
Can any of you tell me where is the line between "being open to people who are not your type, instead of waiting for Mr perfect" and "don't settle for less"?

Is the line thin?

I mean, I do understand one should be open and see all kinds of people, but at the same time, that does not mean you are going to pounce on the first guy you know and marry him.

There is also the problem of how a person gets blamed for "not trying hard enough" if after hanging out with a person for a long time nothing happens.  It happened to me three times.

I know that the person that will make you happy might be unexpectedly someone who is not your type.  But to what extent do you have to be open?  Is it good or bad to know your negotiables and non-negotiables?

To those of you (and I know several of you LJ friends) who ended up with a person who was not your type, how did the love ended up coming?  what did you do?  What keeps the relationship together?  Can you tell me if it was easy for you to see the line between that and settling for less?

I would love opinions, a debate, orientation.  Any comment, welcome!
Zepia
..it is my radio show.  So many years with it.

My last semester has me playing on fridays from 2-4 PM

Dengue Fever (No, not the illness).

  • Feb. 7th, 2008 at 11:22 PM
Zepia
I discovered the band Dengue Fever while playing music at my radio show (it's still on fridays 2-4 PM at 90.5 FM or the WUSC webpage, for those interested! :) ).  It is an intriguing American band with a Cambodian singer.  Considering one of my roommates is Cambodian, this fact probably made me notice the band.  I even called her on the phone, because the songs were sung in Khmer.

The funny part is that I found the site of the band in My Space (which I rarely visit, before you think of adding me!), and  she was laughing and told me to look for more info.  I found  an article about them in Wikipedia, and read it out loud.  It happens that the singer of this band Chhom Nimol, is very famous in Cambodia, according to my roommate.  I wonder if Dengue Fever is/will be famous.

Now, this will be a band criticized by some activist circles, but I believe this is a collaboration.  It might not be a Blonde Redhead (a band with an Asian singer who neither sings in Japanese, nor the music has Japanese elements, to my knowledge), but it could as well be more of a Stereolab.  Then again, I like people whom not all activists in the anti-racist cause are fond of (Peter Gabriel and David Byrne come to mind).

There are so many more things I would like to blog about right now.  But I need to organize my ideas.  Besides, the Capstone course with its case studies is occupying much of my mind, which is  part of the reason why  updating has been hard for me.

A Good Quote To Share

  • Feb. 6th, 2008 at 3:51 PM
Bjork Window
Taken from [info]brownfemipower

I love the quote (And I recommend the blog itself if you are interested in anti-racist and/or Latin American and/or Feminist-of-Color issues).

mujeres, hermanas, mamis, tias, hijas–know your blessedness. know that you are sacred. know that the world needs you, your skin, your hair, your face, your fists, your fingers, your womb, your brain, your stomach, your intestines, your fierce loving heart. know your blessedness, breath it in, soak it in, rub it in with tender palms and much love. know the world mourns when you are not here.

feel safe, if only for a moment.

feel safe, and know you are sacred.

 

In loving dedication to all my female friends, Latinas and not Latinas alike. :)

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Zepia
   I am following with a lot of interest the elections of 2008.  And I am amazed about how dynamic they might have become.  There were many things that we people who inhabit this country, citizens or not, took for granted.  Before, we thought Hillary was going to win for sure, but recent incidents in a few key states makes the competition fiercer than we thought.  I have read a lot of articles about the young voters of today (and apparently Obama has a lot of appeal for them, according to several articles), and about the black voters.  According to a recent article (I think it was in Time Magazine), more African American voters are moving to support Obama, and race was not precisely the cause, as many of these new supporters supported Hillary.

  Recently I talked to a guy who belongs to both populations (meaning African American 20-25).  He is also an undergrad in Political Science and a very smart fellow.  Like me, he also thought Hillary would win and the victory by Obama in Ohio took him by surprise.  He told me: "both for the Republicans and for the Democrats, things are heating up.  However the elections turn out, this is going to be really interested.  I think also the candidates need to address quite a few concerns such as the economy."  We both discussed that some people think a Republican would win because Americans do not want to get out of their comfort zone when it comes to presidents, but then again, Edwards is not at the top of the list.

He echoed what I was reading in recent articles, that the Facebook  generation is more concern about economy and their own future.  That they don't take for granted all the comfort their parents took for granted.  The article (in Business Week, by the way) went on saying how this perception of the young voters is partly reflecting in recent voting turnouts, as well as in the tactics of the candidates to reach the young voters.

  I think probably this is extremely interesting and dynamic compared to the rather dull elections of four years ago.  Competition this time will be fierce, with close victories, with people trying to listen.  That or the articles about the youth are getting too optimistic.

I need to read more closely how racial dynamics are affecting voters.

OK... I shall leave you with this pearl.  Feel free to discuss if you want.

Evaluating Facebook... and on the "complicated" relationship issue

  • Dec. 19th, 2007 at 12:51 PM
Inquisitive 2
- First, the pundit in me needs to step in!  This article catched my eye recently!  I think the dynamics of companies venturing in Social Networkings is a rather interesting phenomena.  I have a couple of friends in Facebook who are in the networks of companies they work for.  But I never saw this from the Business point of view, which makes me follow the topic with more interest than before.  This will generate an interesting debate in months to come, I think .  If you have something to say about the issue, feel free to discuss.

 -  There has to be a way in which people are not informed about activities I do and no-one cares.  Some applications or communities I add for personal amusement or reasons.  I would not mind the joining communities part, but whatever I do with my communities, should not be publicized if people do not care.

- On that note, someone criticizing me for puting "It's complicated" to my relationship status.  "Either you are or you are not... And no-one cares."  Well, if nobody cares, then why do you act as if you do?  I understand if someone changes the relationship status every five minutes.  But I have reasons of my own as well as the right of define my relationship status as I perceive it.  If you don't like it, that's yours, but leave me alone with your "black-or-white" mentality.  (Sorry folks.  I needed to vent!) By the way, I prefer to keep the details of my relationship status to private communications (meaning the friends-only entries in LJ, and e-mails and calls for the non-lj-ers who read my blog).

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